My mom calls this the "adult vortex". m-w.com says:
"Definition of VORTEX
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: something that resembles a whirlpool vortex of battle — Time>
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a :
a mass of fluid (as a liquid) with a whirling or circular motion that
tends to form a cavity or vacuum in the center of the circle and to draw
toward this cavity or vacuum bodies subject to its action; especially : whirlpool, eddy b : a region within a body of fluid in which the fluid elements have an angular velocity"
I'm not sure if that definition actually relates, but that's ok. I think her point is that I am not alone in this issue. So, anyone out there have any suggestions? I hate being so far away from my good friends in California and having so few friends here in Oregon. I feel like my social life is lacking, and I am not motivated to get out and do things like I might be in California.
:( I don't know! I only hang out with people from church and honestly it's a pretty big age gap for me. All the girls in our YA group are 18 & 19 and then there's me. Even when we hang out in a big group, I still usually the oldest (by a few years too). And at the church, a lot of women are much older than me. It's like there's this weird black hole around me. I don't mind it most of the time, but sometimes I wish I didn't feel like an outcast so much. Can you just move back to socal? kthanks.
ReplyDeleteI know, that won't happen. I can wish though, can't I? Where DO people meet people? I feel like I've had the same friends my entire life. If I EVER move away, I will be in for a huge shock.
Leaving college and entering into the "adult world" is horrible. Even now as I'm in grad school it's hard to find friends my age, because I'm assistant-conducting the undergrads and they're so much younger than I. I agree with Amy, just move back to Cali! :)
ReplyDeleteBut maybe there's a church that you could attend mid-week that has a young-adults group? I met Peter on eHarmony. I joined just to meet people and make friends because I was so lonely. I didn't expect to get a future-husband out of it (not engaged yet but soon).
Maybe there is a club you could join? Like crafting or salsa dancing or something random like that? I'll think about it more and let you know if I come up with any amazing ideas. lol
Julie
Amy-You're funny! I can't move back, and you know it! =p I remember thinking that the age gap in YA has spread further and further apart...
ReplyDeleteJulie-I'm on eHarmony! So far, I haven't met my "Peter" or whatever his name might be...but I like that it's something rather than nothing! I haven't seen any clubs in the area, but maybe I'm just not looking in the right places...
Erin, what city are you in right now? Are you into creative/artsy types of things? Like diy projects? I remember we always went pottery painting together! I continued that tradition with one of my friends in San Jose! :) I know how horrible it is to live somewhere and feel like you have no friends, my first year in SJ was pretty bad. I broke up with Dustin, I had a few friends but no one very close, it was tough so I totally know what you're going through and I reeeeally want to help! I wish we lived closer! I miss you!
ReplyDeleteJulie, I do like craftsy things. There aren't many pottery places around here, and the ones that are here are pretty expensive! I wish we lived closer, too! I miss you, but it's nice to be able to read your blog!
ReplyDeleteOops. Forgot to respond about what city I'm in. I live in Oregon City, which is just outside Portland. =)
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